afraid of commitment
If you are reading this article, it is most certainly that the subject was put on the table some time ago and that it did not go as planned. You expected him to hug you and say, “Oh yes honey, I want so much for us to move in together, get married, have children.
” But no, fear has invaded him, you have seen his skin bleming and his desire to take his legs to his neck: HE FLIPPE! My guy is afraid of commitment: what to do? I tell you everything!
I will make great generalities in this article otherwise I would have to write a thesis on the subject but we agree, the woman can also be afraid of commitment!
My guy is afraid of commitment: Here’s what you should do!
Don’t go faster than music (afraid of commitment)
If he is afraid to commit, it is because you talked about it, if you talked about it, it is surely that you wanted to rush things. The common purchase of an apartment, the desire to live together,the desire to get married… is often done naturally. Not to mention that, since it is the man who makes the marriage proposal, if he had wanted to, he would have already done it. Patience, patience!
The feeling of having a knife under your throat is not pleasant. And, sometimes, unconsciously, you want to rush things in the hope of becoming a “real solid couple”, and that everyone sees him “you saw, Martin and Julie got married, they really love each other huh”.
We can very well live happily a lifetime without living together, it was the case of friends of my parents who stayed all their lives together, until death, in two separate apartments. So certainly, they were either at home or at the other, but also had the possibility of being alone if they wished. It is a choice. And I’ve never seen a couple so happy. Obviously, budget question, it is better to be easy .. (afraid of commitment)
You can very well live happily a lifetime without getting married! Marriage is not a goal in itself. Some see it as a symbol, others do it to please mom and dad, others do not even ask the question because it is tradition, it is “like that, we love each other then we get married”, still others see it as a simple contract that does not commit to anything given the number of divorces.
Loving each other and getting married are two very different things, it is not because you have the ring on your finger that you are safe from a gap or a breakup! It’s a choice, if your man doesn’t want to get married, it’s not that he doesn’t love you or doesn’t want to commit. Many confuse commitment and marriage. (afraid of commitment)
A man can perfectly commit to love without making plans on the comet. If he is committed to loving you every day of his life, it’s already not bad!
For children, it’s a little different. If one really wants it and the other does not, the problem is likely to take on a big scale. On the other hand, just because Julien doesn’t want a child NOW, doesn’t mean he doesn’t want one AT ALL. Talk. He may want it but not be ready right away. Do not give an ultimatum, he will resent you a lot and may leave.
How can he get involved? (afraid of commitment)
As I just told you at first, the first thing to do is not to put pressure on him and not to talk about it too hastily. Every human being is unique and may need more time than you do. If commitment reassures you, it can frighten him.
Don’t be taken for granted
When you want your darling to commit, you give him immense importance, and you risk finding yourself in his mind as “taken for granted”. Many men have a seductive spirit, they want to “possess what they do not have”, that is, they simply want to desire.
Even if you can’t stay a lifetime being a challenge for the other, taking charge of yourself, being independent, building your personal life and succeeding independently of them, will potentially make them want to engage with you.
Spice up your life as a couple (afraid of commitment)
Organize outings, romantic weekends, activities that you are not used to doing to strengthen your complicity.
Let things happen
If he is well with you and within your couple, the commitment will be made naturally. Do not try at all costs to prove to him by A + B that if he does not do this or that, it is because he does not love you. Do not compare yourself to other couples “you saw, Sophie and Carl they have been together for two years and they are going to get married, we have been six years and still nothing”. NO NO NO! Certainly not!
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