Do we become narcissistic perverts?
The question of the day is: do we become narcissistic perverts? I will base myself on the writings of PAUL CLAUDE RECAMIER who wrote a book on the subject.
The latter specifies from the outset that the narcissistic pervert does not come into the world as such but becomes so by the vagaries of life.
The child (Do we become narcissistic perverts)
During his childhood he was not recognized as a person in his own right.
He was asked to be a perfect child who meets the expectations and demands OF HIS PARENTS.
It was impossible for him to show his true personality because he would have been punished or even typed. He will be humiliated and punished if he tries to show his true nature. The child will develop masks according to the situations and orders requested.
He will quickly know how to be docile, polite and courteous in a jiandly. The failure to take this child into account leads to real injuries and a destruction of his psychic integrity. He will very quickly deny reality to end up believing the lie that his life has become. This emotional incest will prevent him from being who he is.
It is as if to protect himself from madness he had given up listening to himself.
The adult (Do we become narcissistic perverts)
The adult he has become no longer has access to the child who cried without being listened to. He decided to close himself forever from others and from himself. He is in perpetual suffering but does not know it because he wears different masks depending on the situation.
We will have understood it: the narcissistic pervert had a parent suffering from the same pathology. She will have shown him verbalized hatred as love:
- “you’re a bad boy, you’re lucky to have a mother who loves you despite everything you do to her!”
- “Your mother will always be there for you, you are a boy who does not deserve so much love! You’re very lucky to have your mom. »
- “You behave very badly you should be ashamed of what you do: your father screams to help you and beats you to raise you. You are lucky to stay with your family and be loved by both your parents!
Later he will act like his parents: he breaks the barrier between himself and his victim to be one in a total manipulation. The victim is chosified and kept at a sufficient distance to use it when he needs it. Do we become narcissistic perverts
It is impossible for him to love because:
- He was not taught
- We only showed him a relationship made of manipulation
- Hate is an integral part of the love process
The emotional development of the narcissistic pervert remained stuck in childhood. In contrast to intellectual development, which is indeed adult.
This individual has low self-esteem because he was not raised with respect for his identity and maturation.
To counter this he must wear masks like the ones he was made to wear during his childhood. It is only by “playing” that he feels himself.
The child and adult drowned in an unknown character. (Do we become narcissistic perverts)
Any attempt to help him will be useless because he gave up on saving himself at a very young age.
By acting as he did he saved himself from madness. The narcissistic pervert is in unconscious suffering.
He will never let go of enough bridles to accept help. He does not have the faculty to love and give. His manipulation and the harm he does is not interpreted in this way by him. He thinks he is doing well as his parents did with him.
As I told you the only advice I can give you is to leave.
Because you will never be able to make him hear reason and help him.
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