Falling in love in 36 questions
A study showed that in 36 questions and about 45 minutes, we can fall in love.
In 1997, Arthur Aron, invents this method that would be… infallible! Thus, two complete strangers who would answer these 36 questions and look each other in the eyes for four minutes at the end, fall in love. It seems crazy and unlikely, however, Mandy Len Catron, a professor at the University of Vancouver who did not believe so much in this magical method, did the test that can be found in this article: “To fall in love with anyone, Do this” and published in the New York Time.
The chosen person was not a complete stranger and the two “players” exceeded the indicated game time, however, the rules were followed. Mandy Len then explains, “You’re probably wondering if he and I fell in love. Well yes. While it’s hard to credit the study entirely, it gave us a way to start a relationship thoughtfully. We spent weeks in this intimate space we created that night, waiting to see how it will evolve. » Falling in love in 36 questions
Inevitably, the questions are intimate and personal and allows the other to enter our hidden sphere. Trust is therefore quickly established and we have the feeling of knowing the person in front of us, since always.
The method: 36 questions to fall in love
Part 1( Falling in love in 36 questions )
1) If you could have dinner with anyone around the world, who would you choose?
2) Would you like to be famous? In what way?
3) Before a phone call, do you repeat each time what you are going to say? What for?
4) How would you define a “perfect day”?
5) When was the last time you sang for yourself? And for someone?
6) If you could live to be 90 and keep either the mind or the body of a thirty-year-old for the last sixty years of your life, what would you choose?
7) Do you have a hunch about how you’re going to die?
8) Mention three things you and your partner seem to have in common.
9) What is the thing you are most grateful for in life?
10) If you could change one thing in the way you were educated, what would it be?
11) Take four minutes to tell your partner about your life in as much detail as possible.
12) If you could wake up tomorrow having gained a quality or skill, what would it be?
Part 2 ( Falling in love in 36 questions )
13) If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or whatever, what would you want to know?
14) Is there anything you’ve been dreaming about for a long time? Why didn’t you realize it?
15) What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?
16) What is the most important thing in friendship?
17) What is your most precious memory?
18) What is your most terrible memory?
19) If you knew you were going to die suddenly in a year, would you change anything about your lifestyle? What for?
20) What does the word “friendship” mean to you?
21) What roles do love and affection play in your life?
22) Exchange with your partner something that you consider a positive characteristic in him. Share five in total.
23) How united and warm is your family? Do you think your childhood was happier than most people’s?
24) How do you judge your relationship with your mother?
25) Each say three truths beginning with the word “we.” For example: “We’re both in this room… »
26) Complete this sentence: “I wish I had someone to share…” »
27) If you were to become close to your partner, tell him or her what would be important for him or her to know.
28) Tell your partner what you like about them. Be very honest and only say things you wouldn’t say to someone you just met.
29) Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.
30) When did you cry in front of another person? And all alone?
31) Tell your partner something you already enjoy about them.
32) What subject is too serious to laugh about?
33) If you were to die tonight without having the opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you regret most not saying? Why not tell them so far?
34) Your house, which contains everything that belongs to you, catches fire. After saving your family and pets, you have time to safely recover just one thing. What would it be? What for?
35) The death of which member of your family would affect you the most? What for?
36) Share a personal problem and ask your partner how they would handle it. Also ask your partner to tell you how they think you feel about this problem.
And to fall in love again?
I did this test this summer with my darling, we were in a bar together and the idea came to mind. Well, even after six years of living together, magic happens with this method. There is only positive, like “tell your partner what you like about him”, we compliment each other, we rediscover ourselves, we are far from routine or reproaches and it feels crazy good! I sincerely recommend it.