Here’s why you lose it without realizing it
You are in a relationship, you feel good and yet your girlfriend or your wife decides to break up. For you, everything was fine or almost, you did not see the warning signs of this separation. What if it was more because you had not been able to see them? If you hadn’t understood the importance of what she reproached you for, of what you weren’t doing, or what you were doing wrong perhaps? There are reasons why a woman feels neglected in her relationship to the point of preferring to leave. And there are very simple solutions so that this does not happen to you. Here’s why you lose it without realizing it, and what you need to change to keep it.
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Here’s why you lose it without realizing it
Without even realizing it or in any case without measuring the magnitude that it can have, you have behaviors towards her that no longer allow her to feel loved. She is therefore no longer comfortable within your couple because she feels transparent.
What do you or don’t you do at the risk of losing it?
#1 You lose it when you don’t choose it
This girl, this woman, you chose her, you liked her, you fell in love with her. And yet over time, since you’ve been together, you make her feel that she’s an option, that she’s going after everything else in your life. Your friends, your outings, your passion. She has no real place in your life, she no longer feels chosen, she is no longer the chosen one, she feels too much so she prefers to leave.
#2 You lose it when you put it away from your life
Your notion of the couple is selfish or in any case incompatible with his own. You don’t commit, you don’t make any decisions with her, you never ask her for her opinion for anything. In fact, you compartmentalize your life, you compartmentalize and she knows almost nothing about you in the end.
#3 You lose it when you don’t support it
She feels like she can’t count on you because you’re never on her side, you don’t take to heart what touches her, you don’t care what she’s going through. You are a couple but yet next to you she feels terribly alone.
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#4 You lose it when you always want to be right
You don’t bother to look at the world from her point of view, you blame her every word she says, even when she tries at all costs to find a compromise between you. You distance it more and more when you persist, that you always want to be right, that you do not know how to communicate serenely. A simple discussion between you inevitably turns into an argument because of you because you always want to be right. And when you no longer control the situation, you turn your back, you flee and you let her down by treating her as if she were inferior, as if it were her fault. You impose your silence on her, you take her hostage to your inability to communicate positively.
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#5 You lose it when you play with it
You lose her when you play hot and cold with her, when you disembark after dropping her for the hundredth time, after still being late or after yet another rabbit. You only do it according to your desires, your whims, believing that she is at your disposal or that she loves you so much that she will forgive you everything, stay and never leave. In fact, you play with her, you don’t respect her by doing that, you have an unhealthy relationship, an emotional addiction, not a love story by behaving like this.
#6 You lose it when you don’t open up to it
She tries to love you but you take refuge in your shell, you remain closed. You lose it when you refuse to be present, when you don’t let it enter your life and your heart. As if you didn’t trust her, she was unworthy of you, or didn’t care about your story. No matter what your reason, the distance you maintain between you despite the passing of time does not allow him to know who you really are. And this cannot go on indefinitely. We do not stay in a relationship with a stranger, someone that we do not know and therefore that we can not totally love.
Here’s how to keep it in your life in a few truths: (Here’s why you lose it without realizing it)
By really listening to her, by recognizing when she is vulnerable and when she needs you, your support, your presence.
Thanks to the communication between you, which you have to nourish as much as she and positively.
When you reassure her,when she feels comfortable leaning on you, day after day and she is therefore confident.
When you are sincere, when you tell him that you are sorry and that you really mean it, when you say that you will be there or that you love him
When you question yourself, that you know how to recognize your wrongs, without inflaming a situation out of pride and by not reproducing the same mistakes.
By trusting him,by talking about you really, your greatest fears and your most ambitious hopes. When you don’t put barriers between you.
You keep it when it’s her that you choose, quite simply. And that you assume your choice by showing him your attachment and then your love, your commitment.
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