How to Avoid Toxic Relationships: Learning to Love Yourself by Protecting Yourself from Destructive Relationships

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How to Avoid Toxic Relationships

How to avoid toxic relationships? I decided to take care of myself by moving away from the people with whom I have toxic relationships. It took me a while to realize it, to understand the harm it does, to tell me that it was vital for me, that I had to be comfortable and serene in my relationships with others. To make this decision to say stop is also to take care of oneself.

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Getting away from certain people also means protecting yourself. Closing certain doors also means loving one another. So for all these reasons, sometimes you have to dare, sometimes you have to leave. To protect oneself from toxic relationships is to finally give oneself the right to truly love oneself as one is.

When a toxic relationship sets in in our lives

In life, there are good and bad surprises. From good and bad encounters. Because there are good and bad people?

In any case for us, some people are harmful, harmful, toxic, unhealthy, dangerous for our well-being, our balance and our happiness. (How to Avoid Toxic Relationships)

We don’t always choose who comes into our lives. When it comes to the family or the professional circle, these people are imposed on us. We do not choose to know them, to open a door for them, to exchange with them, to make them a place in our daily life, our existence. These people are there because life has put them on our path, but as much as there are encounters that bring us things, life lessons, beautiful stories, we must admit that some of them hurt us.

Suffering because of someone else is not normal, it is not healthy.

So we all have our tolerance threshold but we do not have to suffer day after day the harmful effects of a toxic relationship that is slowly destroying us. We can try to remain impassive, indifferent for a while. On the contrary, we can react, either by trying to understand why there is this animosity, this wickedness or even this hatred between us, wanting to question ourselves, knowing if we are at the origin of the problem. Or by finally imposing ourselves, by saying what we think and what we feel, by evoking our incomprehension, our sadness, our very distress.

But you never know who you really have in front of you. The range of possibilities is wide.

Selfish, jealous, careerist, blinkeral, profiteers, liars, manipulators, narcissistic perverts, victimization professionals, there is a whole range of profiles that must be avoided.

Make the decision to say stop (How to Avoid Toxic Relationships)

This flight is not a lack of courage, is not synonymous with cowardice or defeat. On the contrary. To run away from these people, to refuse any interaction with them, to close the door of our lives to them is to show strength and determination. It is to preserve oneself, to protect oneself to stop suffering in vain.

It means allowing oneself to be free from any psychological hold, from any emotional hindrance, it means knowing how to say no and finally taking care of oneself. It’s learning to respect and love one another.

It is never easy to make a radical decision. It is delicate in the professional environment, even difficult, frowned on, vector of complications. And in the family environment, it loosens the tongues, creates tensions, resentments, misunderstandings. Thus, according to some relatives, it would have been better to continue pretending, to force oneself. Because the same blood flows through our veins? Maybe, but I live my relationships with my heart and my head. And blood ties are not always the strongest or the most sincere, alas. You have to learn to acceptit. It is a job that sometimes requires a lot of time, introspection, questioning. But the important thing is to take things in order, to ask the right questions about this relationship to succeed in drawing a line if it turns out to be the best solution.

Here are the questions you may have: (How to Avoid Toxic Relationships)

– Does this relationship hurt me? Or am I indifferent?

– Did I do anything to get to this point? Have I sought to understand, have I tried dialogue to save this link?

Do I suffer from it, or can this distance be saving me? Do I miss this relationship and this person as they are today, or am I just nostalgic for some good memories?

– Can I continue like this? Isn’t my psychological, emotional and relational balance threatened? Isn’t my relationship with others, my family and social life impacted? And my self-confidence?

But does he, but she, by whom the pain, the conflict happened, ask himself/her so many questions? Is he/she sad, unhappy about all this, does he/she only realize it?

Focus on the essential, on the positive and think about yourself (How to Avoid Toxic Relationships)

When you are facing a wall, it is impossible to talk, to exchange, then communication is broken. There is nothing worse than trying to explain and understand a person who is a lot of trouble, who does not know how to question, who is always right, who does not know how to acknowledge his wrongs and apologize. It’s exhausting, it’s destructive.

And above all, what is the point of making yourself sick for someone who prefers to save his pride rather than see your pain? Who conceives of the relationship only in hypocrisy, interest, suffering, conflict? What does it bring to your life that is healthy and constructive? What added value? No.

So today when everything goes too fast, where we sometimes lose the thread and when we do not take enough time for ourselves, it seems to me useless to pollute our minds with such people. (How to Avoid Toxic Relationships)

I understand the difficulty of moving on, of giving up somewhere, of admitting that there is no longer any hope that this will change. I experienced this with some of my relatives, and until the end I wanted to understand why there was this hatred, why there was this manipulation. I ended up giving up because the struggle was in vain. I did not have in front of me honest, reliable people, able to think about their misdeeds, the harm they do.

So I made a radical decision. Finally several over the years. These people, these relationships, I took them out of my life. definitively. By all means. Today I have no lack, no regrets, no guilt and almost no more suffering.

I gave up trying to understand what they themselves could not justify.

And since I am relieved, freed from a weight, I feel that I can finally be myself with my flaws without being judged permanently. I regained confidence in myself, in my abilities, in my projects because I no longer let anyone manipulate me and play with me and my morale.

I am the only mistress of my destiny. I decided to take care of myself and the people I love and forget about others in order to move serenely towards what is often the most difficult, acceptance and self-love.

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