THE INJURED PERSON FIRST THINKS OF PROTECTING HIMSELF ,
When we live experiences of betrayal, we create a mask to protect ourselves. This mask is that of control. Indeed, the betrayed person controls himself to make sure to respect his own commitments, to be faithful to his values and responsible. After the betrayal, to protect herself, she constantly makes sure that others keep their commitments.
betrayal in love
Strength is a characteristic common to all people who have a wound of betrayal. It is important for them to stay strong and courageous. They experience any new act of cowardice, therefore lack of courage, like treason. They have great difficulty accepting cowardice in others. These people develop real demands on the other in love (whether it is a new love or the person who betrayed them).
And to protect yourself so as not to show your vulnerability betrayal in love
These people then become extremely observant and have an alert, intense gaze. So when a person who has been betrayed looks at another person, they have the gift of making them feel special, important. She sees everything quickly. She also plays with her gaze to keep the other at bay when he is on the defensive. She has a tendency to stare at and scrutinize the other in an intimidating way. He / she protects himself in this way so as not to show his weakness, vulnerability or helplessness.