who sends the text
In a relationship, there is often one of the two people who writes more than the other, who takes more initiative. This is normal. But when it becomes a real source of suffering for one of the two, it is necessary to act to change the situation.
Because it’s tiring and frustrating to always write first. One has the impression of not counting for the other, of not being a priority. He/she is content to answer each time, without making any effort. It is always me who sends sms and I would like it to be different: how to do it?
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Accept that he/she does not have the same needs as you (who sends the text)
Some people are simply not comfortable writing all day to someone, even if they care about that person. As some do not like to spend an hour on the phone discussing everything and nothing. Personality question.
If that person never takes the initiative to send you the first message, it means that they have got into the habit of you doing it for them, and that it suits them. She has other priorities at the moment than writing to you, but that doesn’t mean she doesn’t care about you. So there’s no reason to worry.
Focus more on his/her behavior when he/she is with you: does he/she pay attention to you otherwise? Does he/she like to surprise you, value you with his/her words and actions towards you? This person may simply have a different way of expressing their affection to you. For each person has his own language of love.
It’s always me who sends sms: write to him only for a specific purpose (who sends the text)
If you want your partner to invest more in your SMS exchanges, start by writing only qualitative messages. Write to him only when you have something interesting to tell him, when you want to initiate a conversation that will strengthen your complicity. Your exchanges will then have more value in his/her eyes, and he/she will be more willing to answer you.
Write to him/her out of a desire to share, and not out of fear that he/she will move away, out of fear of losing him/her. Because this is reflected in the messages.
Indeed, if you write to him every day to say nothing in particular, you show him that you are acquired, which is not very rewarding in the end.
So stop writing to him/her to ask if “it’s okay”, to find out what he/she ate at lunch or what he/she is doing. Write to it only to create exchanges of quality, value, in your image.
When you passed in front of this shop you had both noticed the last time for example. Or when you want to invite him/her to the concert of a band that he/she particularly appreciates on Friday night.
You may be afraid that he/she will forget you if you write to him/her less often. But tell yourself that if he/she already forgets you at this point, it was in any case not a good omen for your relationship. It would simply mean that this person did not really want you. Remember that you are a valuable person, who does not have to run after others.
Just talk to him about it (who sends the text)
If this situation becomes too burdensome for you, I invite you to talk to him about it in a transparent manner.
Tell him/her that you have noticed that he/she has less need to write to you than you, that he/she has less need to keep a contact by SMS, but that for you conversely it is important. Tell him/her that you would like him/her to write to you a little more often during the day, that he/she takes more initiatives, because you need to have news regularly, and because you care about him/her.
It is important that you talk to him without falling into the reproach, because he/she could turn on himself/herself, and not want to make efforts. The goal is to have a constructive conversation together, which moves you forward and allows you to better understand both of you.
You have nothing to lose by talking to him about it, by telling him things clearly. Because if this person cares about you, he will make sure to meet your needs, because he wants to make you happy.
Deeds are more important than anything. If your partner is not able to act for your happiness, you will never be able to be happy in this relationship.
Conclusion: It’s always me who sends sms (who sends the text)
If after making all these efforts, your partner does not write to you more and does not give you more attention, it may be time to distance yourself. Because this person does not consider you as someone important in his life. And you deserve much more than crumbs.
You deserve the full attention of someone who makes you a priority, who makes efforts to make the relationship work.
You can’t make all the effort alone. It takes two to make a relationship work. If the other does not follow you, you will have to know how to let go after a while. To keep your self-confidence so precious.
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