Lack of self-confidence in the couple
At the beginning of a relationship, just after the meeting, it is often all beautiful pink. We discover ourselves, tame ourselves, desire each other, miss each other. And over time, we want to know who is behind the person to whom we are attached. But sometimes it takes a little time for the relationship to settle down, not for lack of love but because a question comes back in a loop.
For lack of self-confidence in the couple and for fear of being judged on their past, this question “will you still love me…?” leaves the door open to many doubts, to his own fears.
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To go beyond this fear, one must ask oneself the questions to oneself and not base one’s fears on the other. No love story worthy of the name can exist and flourish in such a climate of doubts. Trusting your partner and believing in the power of shared love is how not to let your fears question your relationship. Lack of self-confidence in the couple: “Will you love me again?”
Lack of self-confidence in the couple: “Will you still love me if you see me as I see myself?”
“When you know my weaknesses, my fears, my doubts? Will you still love me when you see me as I see myself when I look at myself in the mirror? Will you really feel something for me?
Is the image I have of myself so distorted by negativity that I can imagine myself unworthy of your love? That I can’t be loved?
The adage that “you have to learn to love yourself, you have to love yourself before you can love others” takes on its full meaning. If I don’t love myself, who will do it for me? No one. You can fall in love with me but if I feel unworthy of this love, unfit to receive it then it is in vain that this love will try to hatch.
Lack of self-confidence in the couple: “Will you still love me when you know my past?”
Will you still love me when I confess to you who I really am, what was my past, what is my story?
What have your feelings been built on so that you can project yourself with me? I didn’t lie to you but you don’t know everything yet, you don’t know everything about me.
Should we say everything to each other in a couple? That is the question I am asking myself.
Should we confide in our past mistakes, our failures, our faults, our shame or our guilt or should we instead keep them quiet? Keep a part of mystery, have your secret garden?
Love is my sense synonymous with trust and sincerity. I don’t see myself giving my heart and soul to someone I wouldn’t trust. Nor do to someone what I would not like to be done to me.
So where is the line between what needs to be said and what needs to be you?
Lack of self-confidence in the couple: “Will you still love me when you know my doubts and fears?”
To trust, is it to say that, on the contrary, oneself is silent about what belongs to no one but oneself? This question loops in my head because I wonder if you will still love me the day you see me through my eyes.
Am I unable to heal my wounds and turn the page to finally feel free and entitled to be loved?
Am I right to doubt so much? We all have a lived experience, a more or less heavy and painful past in love. No one has the right to judge another person without knowing his or her entire history.
So is my past so shameful that I can doubt?
When we met, I offered you the image of a woman smiling, open, confident, sure of herself. You have seen the one I want to show but especially the one I want to be. I dream of being able to be like this every day but we all have old demons that sometimes come back to haunt us.
When they catch up with us, we realize that we have not completely turned the page to start a new chapter in our lives. The book has not been closed on the wounds of the past and the emotions it has engendered.
So when life offers us a new chance to meet love, we want to believe in it more than anything.
But we wonder if we should embark on this new story when we feel that some scars are not closed.
We are moving forward as best we can, we are chasing away negative thoughts in order to concentrate on this new opportunity. The desire to believe in it, to love and to be loved is strong. We let ourselves be caught up in the game of love because there is nothing more beautiful especially when it is reciprocal.
Lack of self-confidence in the couple: “Will you still love me when you know everything about me?”
If I wonder if you will still love me when you know my whole story, it is because I have not totally mourned it. I met you when an important part of my life is already behind me and I can’t turn back. Even if I wanted to.
I am no longer who I was ten years ago.
Even if I kept in my heart this flame that makes me want to move forward together. Only I can not deny my past because it shaped the one I am today.
I don’t want to hide anything, but I also don’t want my fears to spoil what we’re trying to build together. We all ask ourselves the question at the beginning of a story whether the other will attach himself and love us. At the beginning of a relationship, the lack of self-confidence in the couple is often present, but this is normal since we do not yet fully know the other.
“Will you still love me?” It is this conditional question that we ask ourselves for anything and everything at the beginning.
“Will you still love me if you discover my worst flaw, my bad habits, my dirty character?”
I think we have all asked ourselves this question before. Only when it conditions the vision that one has of oneself by lack of confidence to the point of thinking oneself unworthy of being loved, one must act. And quickly, not to miss his chance to live a beautiful love story.
Starting a love story about doubts is the worst thing.
You have to be able to be yourself to be able to project yourself together. If we fear the answer to the question “will you still love me?” then it is because we have not solved our past.
We must leave behind the weight of the things that weigh on us so that we can move forward calmly together on a new path. If life offers this new opportunity to be loved, it is because there is a good reason. You just have to believe in it and trust yourself. We all deserve to have a second chance in love and to be happy.
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