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Male-female reactions to a departure
Men and women very rarely react in a similar way. Let’s analyze these differences through the situation of departure.
Damien decided to go on holiday with his friends for three weeks to “recharge his batteries”. Laura remains perplexed, she feels a feeling of abandonment. As if Damien needed to free himself from a weight to find positive energies, as if that weight were her. “He wants to leave away from me, he is not well by my side.” No, Damien just needs a little balance, he has been living with Laura for four years, sees her every day and just wants to spend time with his friends,like in the good old days.
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Everyone has their place in their heart. Laura, meanwhile, is more exclusive than she imagines and can’t stand the idea that her man might feel the urge to spend three weeks away from her.
In this case, the woman is going to be in apprehension. Once she hears the news, her mind will focus on it. For a month, two months, six months, she will keep coming back to the subject, creating arguments and crocodile tears.
She will say she is unhappy and misunderstood. Two weeks before the departure of her husband, the woman will reproach him a thousand and ones, pushing him, unconsciously, to really want to be away from her. She will cry, sharing with him her fears, her doubts about her love.
The man, for his part, will think very little about his departure. Being more in action than in thought, the man will naturally continue his activities without expecting anything from this trip between friends and without apprehending the short separation with his wife. He will try to reassure her,in vain, about her intentions and aspirations.
D-Day (Male-female reactions to a departure)
D-Day arrives: The woman is devastated, as if she had just learned of the death of her husband. The man, protector, will once again try to reassure her by whispering a little “you will see, it will pass quickly”. The woman does not believe it and compares these three short weeks to several years.
A week later
The man, who has fun with his friends in this or that place, will begin to feel a lack. A normal and understandable lack: the daily tenderness, the smile of his companion, his voice, his body, the existential discussions before sleeping, the awakenings at his side … In short, time is beginning to run out. And if he is still happy to participate in this trip, he can no longer enjoy so much.
The woman, she, after crying for four consecutive days, begins to take a liking to independence. She begins to invite friends, to make herself beautiful, to go out. She laughs, bites her teeth back to freedom and almost forgets the distance that made her suffer so much a few days before. (Male-female reactions to a departure)
If the two reactions are formally opposed, the love between the two partners is no less strong. The two love each other but do not react in the same way to common events. The woman functions as in the theater: she anguishes, stresses and is tetanus as long as she is not on stage, thatis to say in the action. Once the “thing” happens, it frees itself from a weight and lets itself go. The man, on the other hand, will be in the action until the beginning and it is once free that he will feel the absence and the lack.
This is obviously a generality, some couples do not do this. However, this small analysis was carried out thanks to about twenty testimonies on the issue: the differences between men and women were then obvious.