Sharing tasks in the couple
Cleaning, cooking and bills are subjects of contention within a couple. No one wants to get on with it, and yet we must act, because otherwise disaster is assured. One is of good will, but in the end we rely on the other to vacuum or make the evening meal. It is vital for a couple to reach agreement on the subject otherwise the arguments will take over and the end of the couple will ring faster than we think. In this article, we will see how to get to do a sharing of tasks in the couple.
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Make the list of tasks for a good sharing of tasks in the couple:
The first thing to do is to create a list of all the tasks to do! This is the only way to know in concrete terms what it is all about. You will be able to organize yourself intelligently. Below you will find 3 recurring tasks that are found in all couples, but know that there can be many more. Take the time to calm down calmly to go around and find a common solution.
Cleaning involves vacuuming, cleaning with water, making the windows, cleaning the bath and sink and making dust regularly. Which includes in all: 6 actions! Each of the partners must be of good will to be able to meet the obligations of the household. First of all, do you ask the following question: does one of us have any preferences? Indeed, you may like to clean up because it calms you down and allows you to think about something else. If none of you has any particular appetite (which is still often the case), it will be necessary to do it in turn, every other week.
Who will eat in the evenings and on weekends? The two partners must reach an agreement and find a compromise. No excuse, because even if you have not done Top Chef, you can make spaghetti or an omelette! The goal is to take action to ensure a fair proportion in household tasks. Take advantage of this “obligation” to innovate and create new recipes or make food for two! It is a task that can become a real pleasure.
You can go there as a couple, alone or order on the internet. I advise you not to do the shopping with your partner, because it will not necessarily be a good time. There is often the person who keeps the list and the other who pushes the shopping cart. I advise you to agree to go alone, because it will be faster and less conducive to arguments. Know that you can order on the internet and benefit from free shipping from 50 euros of purchase: why deprive yourself of it?
Make a schedule: An essential for the sharing of tasks in the couple
After analyzing all the tasks, you will be able to make a schedule so that the two partners can know concretely how to contribute to the tasks of the house. To make an adequate schedule, it is necessary to respect different rules:
If your spouse ends his or her days at 8 p.m. and returns at 9 p.m. it is too late to eat. On the other hand, he (she) will be able to clear the table and put the plates and cutlery in the dishwasher. It is imperative to take into account work schedules in your schedule.
If you are with someone who “loves” to vacuum: why deprive yourself of it? It is possible that you also prefer to make food: go for it! To make an adequate schedule, it is necessary to take into account the tastes and desires of both partners. If you are both ultra motivated to vacuum for example, you will alternate days or weeks.
The right proportion for the sharing of tasks in the couple
Since you will have listed all the tasks: making food, doing the dishes, tidying up, vacuuming, cleaning with water, making a laundry machine, hanging the laundry, storing the laundry. You will be able to create a schedule that takes into account ALL the tasks in order to assign them to each one according to a good distribution.
It is also necessary that the time allotted is also proportional, because making food can take an hour while making a washing machine takes two minutes. If you respect the right proportion: you will get there!
Change, respect and innovate
Your schedule will be constantly changing, because life changes all the time. I advise you to see it again on Sunday with a rested head taking into account the obligations of everyone. The goal is not to feel aggrieved and to feel that we are helping each other and that we are giving each other the necessary support. If you manage to find a real agreement in this direction you will see that the tasks will become pleasant and easy to do.
Sharing tasks in the couple: How to do it concretely? By communicating and finding a solution to problems through listening and communication in the couple.
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