The 6 ways to love

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6 ways to love

Many clumsily think that there is only one love, only one way to love. We can love in a balanced and proportionate way, we can love madly in total emotional dependence… It is true that some forms of love make death suffer while others allow us to live serenely.

The Canadian sociologist John Alan Lee developed in the 1970s a typology of love “The Six Colors ofLove”. This study proves that there is not only one way to love, Alan Lee’s model includes 6 types of love.

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The colors of love: 6 ways to love

EROS:

Eros represents romantic love, as it is most frequently heard. We find love at first sight, sudden and physical attraction, the urgent desire for emotional intimacy and exchanges of passionate feelings.

LUDUS:

This type of love is almost the opposite of Eros: this type of love is aware of beauty, but does not remain attached to the ideal loved one. As evidenced by its primary meaning, Ludus comes from the Latin “ludere” which means “to play”. Thus, Ludus considers love as a game that commits no commitment to anything. Ludus is in emotional detachment, seduction and collects partners!

STORGÊ: 6 ways to love

Here is one of the quietest and most comfortable types of love! Indeed, this one develops over time unlike Eros. It often arises from a stable friendship that turns over time into a constructed and balanced love.

MANIA:

Well, we mean it just by its name, Mania is characterized by an intense emotional involvement, haunting, insatiable and almost irrational. We would talk about OI in seduction language. Finally, love Ludus and love Mania are quite close, the big difference? Ludus remains detached when Mania is totally dependent on the other, on love in general in fact! Mania is possessive and unbalanced, sickly jealous and exclusive in her romantic relationships.

PRAGMA: 6 ways to love

Pragma is, as you have understood, pragmatic! He sees love in a conscious and realistic way, he thinks carefully about the choice of his partner. These people are looking for a compatible partner who fits perfectly into their social environment.

AGAPE:

Here is a beautiful approach to love as no one can achieve it: an altruistic and selfless approach. Agape testifies more of a will than an emotion (quite the opposite of me for example ahah), this love comes more from the mind, from the head, than from the heart. Agapè is able to deeply compassion, to give more and more, without ever expecting anything in return!