What a manipulator hates
As your love story progresses, you realize that there is a problem. The man you are with has reactions, words and behaviors that challenge you and even scare you at times. You have the impression that he wants to control you, to manipulate you.
What if he didn’t want you that good? Is he part of the category of manipulators, is it the behavior of a narcissistic pervert? You are asking yourself many questions in the face of these increasingly obvious signs and are no longer sure how to act. And then you fell in love.
So it’s not easy to know what to do. It’s hard for you to put into words what it really is. How do I know if it is a manipulator? This article will explain to you what a manipulator hates in a relationship. Thus, it will help you understand who it really is.
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What a manipulator hates: 9 things
#1 A manipulator can’t stand being told no
For a manipulator it is very simple; he is always right! He cannot therefore bear to be told no, to disagree with him. H-e will try everything in his power to make you change your mind. His methods can also be strong: guilt, blackmail and threats of all kinds… Do not fall into the trap of guilt for wanting to justify yourself. Be careful because if it loses control it can be dangerous for you.
#2 He hates to be confronted with reality
A manipulator tends to remake the world in his own way and think that only what he says is true. You will be able to prove him by A+B that the reality is that he will support you that you are wrong. H-e will argue endlessly, lie and the worst thing is that he will believe what he tells you. He is in his own world. He is in deep bad faith and therefore denies any reality because he hates to be confronted with it. It can be akin to a mythomaniac by certain behaviors.
#3 A manipulator doesn’t like kindness (What a manipulator hates)
Kindness is a quality that bothers him, that he does not understand and that he despises. He will, on the other hand, perfectly know how to pretend to be nice but it has no value in his eyes. This is purely and simply manipulation. For him, others are only a means to his ends, he is falsely kind out of interest. This explains the contempt and hypocrisy that you may have noticed from him in front of some people.
#4 He hates to give to the other
For him nothing is free, he hates to give anything. He is in no way disinterested and everything he does, has a purpose for his own person. Whether it’s for feelings- but does he only know what it is?! – as with material things, nothing will ever be free with him and he will make you understand it rather clearly. Do a friend a favor? He does not know how to do it and he does not want to. It has no interest for him, it does not bring him anything.
#5 A manipulator hates not being in the center of attention
He hates when the lights are not on him. Talking about someone else does not interest him, he wants to be constantly at the center of attention. Looking at him and only him is what he wants. Even in a dramatic situation, general attention must be paid to him. He always has more to say, he always knows everything better than everyone else, he is always more to complain or on the contrary to congratulate… This behavior generates delicate and very embarrassing situations for his partner to live.
What a manipulator hates: 4 other things
#6 He hates losing control over his partner
If you show a minimum of independence and want to take time alone, he will not stand it. What he wants is to control your actions and so he hates not knowing where you are, with whom and what you are doing. It’s no longer possessiveness and jealousy, it’s still a step above. He feels the very strong need to control everything and hates the idea that you can escape him. You are like a puppet in his hands, from which he pulls the strings.
#7 The manipulator can’t stand the frustration
Sometimes it sounds like a child who is refused a toy and has to learn what frustrations is. Except that he is an adult and the whims of childhood have long since disappeared. But if you refuse him anything or he can’t get what he wanted he will enter into a black anger. He becomes capricious, angry, unfair, nasty at times and does not control his frustration.
#8 He hates to change his habits
As he likes to have control of everything and everyone, he obviously cannot stand that things escape him and that his habits are turned upside down. His life is settled like music paper, so he hates any hindrance to his rituals and any unforeseen events, unless he has decided to. He will have a hard time containing his rage in the presence of other people if that happens.
#9 The manipulator hates that you are indifferent to him
If you are indifferent to him, he will make it clear to you that he does not support it. For him he has shaped you in his image, so he hates that you move away, that you are not admiring him as he likes to be. If you affirm your independence, he will no longer recognise the independence he wants to manipulate and that will be intolerable to him. Not being in control of the situation, that you do not need him is not an option for him. You are his thing and above all he sees himself as your only point of reference, he wants you to be nothing without him.
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