When to say “I love you”
I LO-VE YOU: six letters, three words.
For such great significance.
To say “I lo-ve you” is to reveal one’s feelings, to expose oneself, to expose oneself… This is THE universal declaration of LOVE. And we know that behind its romantic value lies in this sentence of real stakes.
Even at the age of 10 when we were once pre-pubescent, the “I love you” was of great importance. Like our parents we wanted to have a privileged relationship with someone. (Pledge of happiness and intense connivance). Subconsciously we knew that these words represented a commitment.
This step that generates so many questions; “When is he going to tell me I love you?” Is he afraid to say, I love you because he is afraid of commitment? “I’m not sure I like it..” “It’s too early, to tell him I love you right?” “I really like it? “; appears as paramount. (When to say “I love you”)
We are happy, happy, the other also we see it in his eyes, it’s wonderful, so we think we are in love . Yet it’s not been that long, but we get along so well… So we drop the bomb after, just, three appointments.
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During the beginnings of a relationship (Passion) biochemists have shown that the body produces a hormone called phenylethylamine (yes, I can’t pronounce it either),this hormone is responsible for our euphoric states. It has the same effects as cocaine! (“The”C” is an illicit substance, you do not have the right to consume it!)
So notice to hyperactive and impulsive, no rush. Nor excitement (well if), we do not get excited, the “I love you” is sacred and should not be said too soon. Because feelings are exacerbated during the beginnings of a relationship. And of course, we are rational and responsible beings, we prefer to take a step back before committing to anything.
It is preferable, to have a minimum of knowledge about the personality of the other to be sure to love his defects as his qualities. Patience, the time that the “passion” period passes, to ensure the veracity and durability of the feelings that are built.
And too often (risk of trivialization of the “I love you”)
The “I love you” in some couples is trivialized, is pronounced as a polite phrase after a phone call, before leaving for work, in thanks for a service rendered, dropped as a goodbye … This statement is sometimes made without emotions, which also trivializes feelings. And creates, among other things, the routine.
Repetition makes it ordinary, common. In short, it is desecrated. In this case:
What are the best times to say “I love you” while keeping its romantic and sacred meaning?
- Cute moments like, when lying down; Special occasion, birthday or Valentine’s Day; In response to an I lo-ve you, we remain polite; During lo-ve…
- Or during all the small moments of complicity, intimate, where an “I love you” is required.
- An “I love you” says from time to time, at selected times makes it more special, rare, and enjoyable.