This is the year you get your ex back.
I’m sure I don’t have to tell you that getting your ex back has never been more important.
Just know that it won’t be easy, but nothing worth doing ever is, right?
Get An Ex Back With This Life Changing Advice
What You Need To Know About Getting Your Ex Back
1. Don’t rush the process or “force it”.
Folks, it doesn’t get any more basic than this, but it also doesn’t get much more CRITICAL than this, either.
Here’s the thing: most people in your situation — when you’re facing the possibility of the person you love slipping out of your life forever — are feeling desperate. And I totally understand that; it’s a natural reaction after you’ve been dumped or gone through a tough breakup. You desperately want to do SOMETHING… ANYTHING… to get your ex to change their mind and take you back. most times the problem is… ACTING on desperation or those post-breakup emotions is almost ALWAYS a bad idea. You CAN NOT rush the process of changing your ex’s mind about breaking up. You can NOT show ANY kind of desperation at all, either… and not just during the early phases, but throughout the entire process.
Desperation is an attraction killer. Trust me on this, I’ve seen many of my clients make this mistake despite my best efforts to talk them out of it…. If you appear too desperate, if you try to push your ex by contacting them too frequently or begging and pleading with them… it’s only going to make your situation WORSE.
Take a step back for a minute and think about things from your ex’s perspective. Would you be attracted to an ex who won’t stop bothering you? Would you be attracted to someone who seems to have nothing else going on their life except chasing after you?
Would you be more or less likely to want to take someone back if they begged and pleaded and tried to talk you into giving them another chance?
Obviously, the answer is no to all of those questions. So by trying to rush the process… by trying to reach out to your ex frequently, by trying to talk them into giving your relationship another try… you’re only pushing them further away.
This is something you need to keep in mind throughout the entire process of winning back your ex… which is why I’ve made it the very first tip in this video. Never, ever get too excited or too eager around your ex… never force things or try to rush it.
2. Be realistic about your chances of getting them back.
Look, I’ve said this many times before in my past videos… unfortunately, not every relationship can or should be salvaged. Sometimes, things might be so broken that it’s just not possible to ever realistically have a chance at getting back together. I know that sucks to hear, but it’s the truth: many relationships can and should be revived, but in some cases it’s just not realistic or wise to even try.
3. Spend as much time as possible with friends and family.
OK, I know what you’re thinking… how the hell is hanging out with my friends and family going to help me get my ex back? Well, hear me out… because this is actually something that I’ve started to recommend more and more to my clients, because I’ve come to see how valuable this really is.
First of all, chilling with friends and family is usually enjoyable. It’s a great way to keep your mind off your ex and off the breakup, and live in the moment. This is especially true if you avoid talking about your ex when you’re with friends, and instead just have fun hanging out.
Secondly, you’ll quickly find that hanging out with friends and family can be a powerful tool for re-building your own confidence and self-esteem. Your friends and family like you — at least, I hope they do — and hanging out with people that enjoy your company is a great ego boost.
It will make you feel more confident in yourself, and help you realize that you’re an awesome catch for anyone of the opposite sex…. Including your ex, who would be crazy to let someone as well-liked as you walk out of their life.
This is also a great time to re-connect with old friends that you maybe haven’t talked to much lately.
If there’s someone you used to hang out with regularly that you’ve recently fallen out of touch with, reach out and spark up a conversation.
4. When talking with your ex, focus on making the conversation ENJOYABLE for them.
This is a mistake that I see my clients and followers make CONSTANTLY. You’ve employed a period of No Contact, and start to open the lines of communication with your ex again… you’re exchanging text messages or phone calls, and then eventually hanging out with your ex in person.
You want them to take you back…. So you try to talk about the relationship. You re-hash old drama or disagreements from when you were still together.
Maybe you’re just doing this to try and explain to your ex how you’ve changed since the breakup, or how things will be different if you get back together… but, this kind of approach is 100% guaranteed to ruin your chances.
Trust me, guys… if you want your ex back, you need to make EVERY conversation and hang-out session with them ENJOYABLE. You want your ex to end a conversation thinking to themselves, “well, that was fun”… you want your texts to make your ex smile or laugh when they read them.
What you DO NOT want… under any circumstances… is to remind your ex of the problems that plagued your old relationship. You DO NOT want them to end a conversation thinking to themselves, “ugh, more drama again”. You want your ex to have a good time when they see you or talk to you, not be reminded of old problems or disagreements from the past. Don’t ever, ever try to bring up “serious relationship topics” with your ex until you’re fully back together… keep it light, fun, and enjoyable for your ex.
5. NEVER show any jealousy around your ex.
This ties in to my previous tip, and it’s just as important. You don’t ever, EVER want to outwardly display any kind of jealousy around your ex.
I know it’s painful and frustrating to hear rumours that your ex may have gone on a date with someone new… and I know you desperately want to ask them about it… but DON’T. Act like you don’t give a flying fuck about your ex’s love life since the breakup.
Don’t give ANY sense that you’re jealous about anything, even if you’re feeling the complete opposite on the inside… instead, pretend you don’t care at all about who your ex is seeing or what they’re doing with their spare time.
As I mentioned before, avoid drama and keep things fun for your ex. Jealousy isn’t fun, and it certainly isn’t attractive, so do your absolute best to never show any kind of jealousy around your ex.
6. Be willing to play some harmless mind games on your ex.
Now I’m not talking about anything really egregious here guys… when I say “mind games”, I don’t mean lying to your ex or manipulating them in some way. I just mean that it can be very useful to use basic human psychology to your advantage in order to win your ex back. I’ll give you 2 examples:
Example one… texting. When you get a text from your ex out of the blue, wait an hour or two before you reply.
Remember: you’re playing the role of a busy, confident person who is ready to move on… so, if you’re willing to wait a while before replying to your ex’s texts, it will make them wonder what you were doing and subconsciously assume that you’re out doing interesting stuff and living life without them.
Also related to texting: be the one to end conversations. Let your ex send the last message in a back-and-forth texting exchange.
Again, this isn’t really sneaky or immoral stuff — you’re just making a small effort to quietly be the one to end most conversations with your ex. It’s a power play of sorts, where you’re asserting your own value as a person and your confidence with life in general. This is attractive behaviour for your ex, and will subtly and subconsciously shift the way they think about you in a positive way.
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