Proof of love
“There is no love, there is only evidence of love”, said the poet Pierre Reverdy. We can say I love you, it is not always a sufficient proof of love within the couple. The adage states that “only deeds matter”. Is this true in love? Are words just fine words, should a proof of love be more tangible? So how do you define a true proof of love? Is it something universal between two people who love each other? Proof of love: what is a true proof of love?
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Proof of love: what is a true proof of love?
The declaration and commitment, the first proofs of love
A proof of love is not just something that shows itself at the beginning of a relationship. It’s not just revealing your feelings, declaring yourself to engage in a love story. The proofs of love build the couple and accompany them throughout the relationship.
The “I love you” of the beginning are quickly replaced by concrete things: a commitment such as living together, getting married, having a child. On their own, these acts are indeed proofs of love. But for all that, this must not mean that we have nothing more to prove afterwards. We must not consider that we have nothing more to prove because we have committed ourselves or when the couple is well.
The little love attentions: so many proofs of love
A proof of love can take many forms, often very simple. A kiss, the intensity of a look, a sincere word, a “I love you” written. Sometimes it only takes not much to feel fully and sincerely loved
Small proofs of love of everyday life:
Votre amoureux finds you beautiful when you wake up naturally, you are pictured on his phone wallpaper, he really listens to you when you talk to him. He tells you I love you or I miss you even if you were together the day before. Better yet, it detects your emotions and when you’re not well.
In some cases, a proof of love can be much more concrete, material, such as a jewel, a candlelit dinner, a surprise trip. The main purpose of these gifts is obviously not to buy the other but to express one’s love. There are plenty of little love touches to surprise yourself on a daily basis.
Proofs of love and language of love
It is interesting to realize that the proofs of love are the founding elements of the language of love. There are five of them
- The rewarding words
- Physical touch
- Quality moments
- Gifts
- Services rendered
When you think about it, the language of love is therefore made up of evidence of the love you have for your partner. These are things we do, words we say to him, moments spent together. Compliments and sweet words, kisses and caresses, privileged moments, gifts and surprises, unfailing presence and comfort.
These things that we do more or less often, in a natural way, are therefore proofs of love. Only we don’t do it to prove our love every time, we do it because it’s natural, we feel like it, to please.
Why do we need proof of love?
When you are in a relationship, you can feel vulnerable. The emotional stakes are important, we need to reassure ourselves and this necessarily involves the behavior of the chosen one of his heart. We are looking for these famous signs that prove the love of the other.
This obviously raises the question of self-esteem.
If it is weak, then the person will have the mistaken feeling of not deserving of the love that his partner has for him and will therefore constantly need proof of love. She will seek in the attitude of her partner material to reassure herself. This research can become a real need particularly painful to live and create an oppressive climate within the couple.
If the couple is not well, the person who is very much in love will try to track the proofs of love of his partner. This puts in place extremely strong pressure. If it is normal to prove to each other that we love each other to make the couple last, it must not become an issue or respond to pressure or a form of jealousy.
What is a real proof of love today?
Today with ephemeral relationships, the couple is in the hot seat and the commitment is scary. We therefore seek to find proof of love par excellence to ensure that we are well with the person with whom we have had a few appointments. Unfortunately, some evidence no longer seems to have any real value, even the presentation to parents is no longer necessarily a sign of commitment. And even less the first night spent together!
That’s why today’s relationships are made up of endless tests and why trust takes time to establish. Mistrust is very present and we need proof just to say that we are in a relationship!
However, in absolute terms, there is no good or bad, true or false proof of love.
Each couple is unique, it all depends on the state of mind, the situation of the couple.
If all goes well, for example that you are on a small cloud on holiday as a lover, it is obvious that an “I love you” in front of a sunset will be a proof of perfect love. On the other hand if the couple is not well then it is more complicated because the proofs of love can be misinterpreted. Indeed a “I love you” pronounced with indifference or a clumsy “me too” will then rather be perceived as a “I do not know where I am anymore”.
To each couple his proofs of love?
The real proof of love seems simply to be the one that at the moment T shows us that our partner really loves us, still loves us. The little evidence of love on a daily basis, these little attentions sometimes innocuous are what makes us happy. They are essential for the couple and it is not mandatory to get married, to say a hundred times I love you or to make a baby to prove to the other that we love him.
For each couple, a proof of innocuous love can be the proof of love par excellence.
It all depends on the history of the meeting, how the couple works. For some, an “I love you” will not be enough while others it will be the ultimate proof. A real proof of love is the assurance that your partner loves you for who you are and that he feels good about your relationship. It is this osmosis, this alchemy between you, this evidence, it is to feel loved and confident in the gaze of the other.
What if the most beautiful proof of love was not to need proof of love?
This reasoning seems bizarre and yet it is not so surprising, on the contrary. When you feel good in your relationship, in confidence, you do not need a priori any particular evidence to feel that you are on the same wavelength and that love is sincere and reciprocal.
The value of a proof of love lies in its sincerity and the importance it is given. The more you know your partner, the more you learn about how you love. Thus, one can then invent one’s own love language, together.
