Are there different types of infidelity?
When we talk about infidelity, we think of physical infidelity. To adultery, deception, to a double life with a lover or mistress. Or to a fickle man or woman who goes elsewhere, who needs to seduce and have other partners of pleasure. But is this the only possible form of infidelity? In a couple, are there not other sources of infidelity than physical pleasure?
Deceiving your partner, is it just being in a bed with someone other than him? What about the different modes of operation of a couple? And thoughts, emotions, vagaries of life that push us on the path of another type of infidelity? Are there different types of infidelity? The answer is yes, here is the detail in this article.
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Are there different types of infidelity?
Infidelity in the couple is often a source of rupture. One deceives, the other learns it and leaves us. Or you deceive, you realize that you are no longer happy in your relationship and you leave. But there are nuances to the different forms of infidelity. It is these nuances that make the couple can sometimes live with infidelity in an assumed or insidious way. And, other couples forgive infidelity.
There are people who can not be faithful, physically, it is stronger than them. Even as a couple, claiming to be in love, these people feel the need to go elsewhere out of desire or because they do not find in their partner what they are looking for. But this is not just physical. It can be emotional, psychological or virtual. No matter the reason, instead of leaving their partner, for fear of remaining alone, out of laziness, out of comfort, out of habit, they prefer to deceive him or her.
So here are the 5 different types of infidelity that we have identified.
The different types of infidelity in a couple
1) Accepted and shared infidelity
Before entering into cases of infidelity in the true sense of the term, we can first evoke the assumed physical infidelity.
For these couples, it is a choice to live in a free relationship. That is, they are together but they have the right to have physical, emotional or sentimental relationships with other people. We can talk about polyamory, non-exclusive relationship, free relationship. With, for each couple, its own instructions for use, its operation accepted, wanted, consented and assumed on both sides.
They are love triangles, polyamorous, swingers, polygamists. Whatever the name they give themselves and their love practice, they are couples for whom the notion of infidelity is not the same as for a so-called classic couple. For them, fidelity is not an inherent value in the way they live their sentimental life. No physical, emotional or sentimental exclusivity, sometimes even all three at once. It is a life choice that does not place infidelity in opposition to the couple and love.
2) Psychological infidelity in the bond of engagement
This type of non-physical infidelity exists within an established couple,who have built a common life for themselves. It is a type of infidelity synonymous with betrayal.
Psychological and emotional betrayal because it is the basic bond, the original feeling of love of the couple and therefore the commitment made, which is betrayed.
Indeed, in this type of infidelity, no need for a third person. Infidelity towards one’s partner is between oneself and one’s conscience, and it is the lie that is infidelity
This form of infidelity in the bond of engagement is that of couples where one of the members does not like or no longer likes the other. Sometimes it’s a form of nostalgic infidelity when you always have your ex in mind for example. We spend our time rehashing our memories, comparing, in short we may not have mourned in love with our old relationship. Sometimes it is the wear and tear of the couple, the flame of desire that wavers. The boredom that gave way to the beneficent routine in the couple. Whatever the reason, there is no more love and infidelity to the commitment made sets in.
The relationship is maintained out of habit, fear or simple indecision at the time of taking the step, of leaving. It is the lack of honesty with oneself and with one’s partner, the absence of a feeling of love that creates infidelity.
We are no longer faithful to the other because we lie to him about what we feel, about the value of the commitment made. One then becomes unfaithful to the other, to his couple and to oneself. To the commitment made. We must have the courage to examine our consciences so as not to allow an unhealthy situation to take over. Because, as one can imagine, this form of infidelity, the longer it lasts, the more it will become a high psychological and emotional suffering.
Different types of infidelity: the most common infidelity
3) Classical physical infidelity
This is the most frequently cited case. It can take the form of proven adultery, a physical relationship with a third person that lasts over time. Or the simple form of an occasional extramarital physical relationship.
Physical infidelity can indeed be divided into two cases, two possibilities. The double life or the impulse of an evening. Adultery with a concrete and followed affair with a mistress or a lover, or a stroke of the canif in the contract, as the expression says, which responds to a drive of an evening, of a night. The glass too much in the evening, the argument that makes you want to reassure yourself about your power of seduction, and we rock. Towards fleeting desire, attraction to another person, need to be urgently filled, lack.
Infidelity that is done in a physical way is perceived as the most serious form in the sense that the partner is actually deceived. Physically, from the kiss to the most total intimacy, the other shares his body and what makes the intimacy of the couple with another person. This is difficult to forgive and almost impossible in the case of a double life.
Two other different types of unhealthy infidelity for the couple
4) Emotional infidelity
Sometimes one of the partners is led to deceive the other because he is lacking affection, attentions. But this infidelity is not physical. Emotional infidelity is a romantic romantic love friendship, a platonic or spiritual love between one of the couple’s partners with a third person.
As there are no physical relationships, infidelity is denied to maintain the illusion that it is just a strong friendship and without consequence on the couple. But this friendship is a “stolen” emotional support and often it deviates from the simple friendly link to a stronger complicity.
So what happens when our partner connects emotionally with someone in a more intense way than with us? Here, there is no physical contact, but nevertheless, this bond based on complicity, trust and intimacy is revealing.
So much so that it can be considered an “emotional adventure” and an infidelity in its own right. And it becomes dangerous if curiosity settles down to the pointof lack , accompanied no longer by romanticism but by a form of desire.
Even if nothing happened physically, it has direct consequences on the bond of complicity that forged the couple. In this case of infidelity, you have to ask yourself the right questions about what is wrong with your relationship. To the point that you feel the need to talk to someone other than the one you are supposedly in love with.
5) Virtual infidelity
This type of infidelity is a combination of emotional and erotic reactions. Infidelity becomes a game, a fantasy, a form of narcissism, an addiction. It starts on social networks or dating sites, can take place with real or virtual friends.
The unfaithful partner shares long online discussions on topics that can become truly intimate conversations. Active follow-up of a virtual profile with likes and comments, private messages, exchanges of photos or videos…
This type of infidelity involves the same kind of emotions as extramarital liaison. There is secrecy, fantasy and excitement, the rationalization of activity and the denial of consequences. This infidelity is just as devastating as an extramarital physical relationship.
Alas, this has become very common nowadays. Virtual relationships are facilitated because they can take place H24 via mobile phones. These new communication tools provide an entire universe where it is possible to have one or more parallel relationships.
In this case, there is no physical contact but engaging in ambiguous behavior in secret is evidence of infidelity. Indeed, exchange images and messages. Have seductivelycharged interactions. To trivialize this behavior is to allow virtual infidelity to put the couple in danger. It is to privilege one’s life behind a screen rather than the concrete reality of what makes life.
In conclusion, yes there are different types of infidelity and while some couples manage to overcome them, others prefer to stop there. Because, once confidence has been broken, it is difficult to pick up the pieces.
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