My name is Solène, I am 13 years old and I would need you.
I saw your video about “the age difference”.
I have a 17 year old friend and for a while we were in love but we told ourselves that age was a barrier.
The problem: we saw each other often and once we kissed like that all of a sudden without thinking, he started to put his hand under my little top (he didn’t touch my chest) and put me on him. I didn’t agree and I left. I told my mother everything so she told me he was a dangerous boy. I told my friend that I didn’t want anyone to talk anymore after what had happened.
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Not long ago we got back in touch and he told me that he was terribly angry, that he was sincerely sorry and that he had never stopped loving me.
So I think I’m starting to have some feelings but if those feelings turn into love, is the age difference, especially at those ages, a danger?
Thank you for your attention
Hello Solène and thank you for your message. ( Age difference )
The age difference is indeed not the same between two “adult” people and two teenagers. The gap between your two ages is not huge (4 years) but you are not at all at the same period of life: you are a young teenager, he is a young adult who will soon return to working life or continue higher education. Your pace of life is therefore not the same and neither are your expectations.
You have all your time to land with a boy, you really have all your life ahead of you. You are young and you should not act in such a way as to regret it behind. This boy is 17 years old, he necessarily has desires, especially sexual, that you have neither the age nor the desire to satisfy.
Unlike your mom, I wouldn’t say he’s a dangerous boy. What he did was not to hurt you or to scare you, he did what seemed normal to him (at his age). The fact that he has feelings for you is not at all impossible, his age does not alter his sincerity in any way.
Also, as I explain in the video, the age difference is mostly annoying because of the look of others. On the other hand, it does not prevent a couple from walking. In your message, I don’t feel ready to be in a relationship (and it’s quite normal, at 13 years old, that it’s not a priority – fortunately even!). So, I advise you not to embark on an adventure that could make you unhappy.
Hoping to have helped you,