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Attractive to Men: What 28,500 People Rated
Want to be attractive to men? New research on 28,500 ratings shows what actually works — and the looksmaxxing traps to avoid.
The news in one sentence: A meta-analysis of 1.5 million face ratings from 28,500 people across 76 countries found that women’s faces are rated more attractive than men’s — a gap that holds across sexes, cultures, and age groups, and that narrows for older faces and faces of people of African descent.
Why It Matters
The study, published in Proceedings of the Royal Society B, is the largest collection of facial attractiveness data ever assembled. Researchers from the Max Planck Institute for Empirical Aesthetics compiled 52 previously published studies. None of them set out to test sex differences in attractiveness. The gap was just assumed.
“Evolutionary biologists took it for granted that women are the fairer sex and theorized about what evolutionary principle could have led to this phenomenon, but the existence of the gap itself was never actually tested,” co-author Eugen Wassiliwizky told the Guardian.
For anyone wondering how to be attractive to men, the finding cuts both ways. Women rated other women’s faces substantially higher than men’s. Men’s faces got similarly low ratings from both sexes. That’s not a verdict on any individual man. It’s an average across 1.5 million ratings.
Facial structure explains part of it. Women tend to have rounder faces. Men tend to have more angular ones. Those differences drove much of the measured gap, but not all of it.
One limitation is worth flagging. Evolutionary biologist Karel Kleisner, who wasn’t involved in the study, told New Scientist the work lacks sensitivity to specific African beauty standards. Local standards shift ratings in ways a global meta-analysis can flatten.
What Actually Moves the Needle
A dating coach with thousands of male clients offered a simpler list. Jamie, posting on Instagram, said the three traits women find attractive are confidence without ego, a sense of humor, and ambition.
Not jawlines. Not cars. Not bank accounts.
On confidence, she draws a line between loud and quiet. Loud confidence performs for an audience. Quiet confidence doesn’t need one. “You know who you are and what you bring to the table,” she said.
On humor, the trap is self-deprecation that turns you into the punchline. Laugh at the situation, not at yourself for existing.
On ambition, she means goals and passions beyond a job title. A half-finished side project that keeps you up at night counts.
The Looksmaxxing Trap
A parallel online movement takes the opposite approach. Looksmaxxing is a sprawling subculture devoted to maximizing physical attractiveness. Softmaxxing covers grooming, diet, and exercise. Hardmaxxing covers cosmetic procedures, experimental drugs, and practices like bonesmashing — striking facial bones.
One 20-year-old identified as Cyrus tracks body fat, blood pressure, fasting glucose, sleep, and testosterone. His recent echocardiogram detected “very slight changes” to his heart. He describes his body as a system waiting to be calibrated.
The movement has its own vocabulary. Faces are ranked on the PSL scale from “subhuman” to “Gigachad.” Mewing is tongue exercise for the jaw. Mogging is outclassing someone physically. Ascension is the goal.
Androgenic, an Australian influencer with more than 1.3 million followers, charges $49 a month for a program that includes blood tests, hormone protocols, facial analyses, surgery recommendations, and a bonesmashing guide. He claims to have grown three inches after puberty and gained 45 kilograms of muscle.
A 2025 report from the Movember Institute of Men’s Health found 63 percent of Australian men aged 16 to 25 engage with masculinity influencers.
Psychologist Scott Griffiths at the University of Melbourne says the appeal is partly economic. As the expectation that men should be sole providers has waned, appearance has become another way to perform manhood. “If you can’t do it by becoming the breadwinner,” he says, “you can build a body that others will perceive as masculine.”
An earlier study complicates the dad-bod question. More than 2,000 adults picked the physiques they found hottest. The top male pick was a lean, athletic build around 15 percent body fat — not overly muscular. A 20 percent body-fat level ranked second, then 25 percent, with 35 percent last.
For women, the ideal skewed softer. Around 30 percent body fat won. A 25 percent level came second. The highest option, 45 percent, landed last.
Researchers noted the numbers aren’t apples-to-apples. Men and women store fat differently. A man at 15 percent looks fit. A woman at the same level could face hormonal problems. A woman at 30 percent can look healthy and curvy. A man at 30 percent usually looks heavier.
What’s Next
A separate University of Florida analysis of nearly 1,300 couples found that men and women are pretty accurate at rating their own attractiveness. Couples tend to match on attractiveness — people date and marry within their own league. Among longer-term couples, men got more accurate at judging themselves. “Men might be getting more realistic,” said psychologist Gregory Webster. “Nobody’s usually getting more attractive over time.”
So the practical takeaway isn’t a blueprint. It’s a subtraction problem. Skip the $49-a-month protocols and the bonesmashing. Work on the three traits a dating coach says actually land: confidence that doesn’t need an audience, humor that doesn’t make you the joke, and a goal that isn’t your job title.
What to Watch
Watch whether the gender attractiveness gap holds up when researchers build in local beauty standards — especially African aesthetics, which the current study doesn’t capture well. Watch whether platforms tighten rules on hardmaxxing content aimed at teenagers. And watch the body-fat research: if lean-and-athletic keeps winning over dad-bod and shredded, the fitness industry will repackage accordingly.
The most attractive version of you is probably the one that stops optimizing and starts living. That’s not a cope. That’s the data.
Frequently Asked Questions
What do women actually find attractive in men, according to research?
A dating coach with thousands of male clients lists three traits: confidence without ego, a sense of humor that doesn’t make you the punchline, and ambition beyond your job title. The Max Planck meta-analysis focused on faces, not personality, so it doesn’t contradict this.
Is looksmaxxing worth it?
The evidence is mixed and the costs are real. One 20-year-old looksmaxxer’s echocardiogram showed slight heart changes. Influencer programs run $49 a month. The lean, athletic physique around 15 percent body fat ranked highest in one study, but researchers say that’s a general preference, not a mandate.
What body fat percentage do women find most attractive in men?
In a SoloFun study of over 2,000 adults, the top male pick was a lean, athletic build around 15 percent body fat. A 20 percent level came second, then 25 percent. The heaviest option, 35 percent, ranked last.
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Solve Intimate Problems Together: Tools That Work
Solve intimate problems together using proven tools and training. Real strategies from Montana, WHO, and relationship courses. No fluff, just what works.
Solve intimate problems together is not a therapy slogan. It is a set of tools you can use today. The Montana Department of Justice brought over 100 law enforcement officers and prosecutors to Helena for a two-day training on sexual assault response. Their goal: strengthen communication between agencies, build stronger cases, and support survivors. You can steal their approach for your own relationship.
What The Montana Training Teaches About Communication
According to KTVH, the training covered interviewing techniques, documentation, courtroom skills, and evidence handling. But the real lesson is simpler. DCI investigations bureau chief Derek Mahlum said, “What we can do better in the state is just what we are doing now, bringing the resources together, talking about collaboration.”
That works for couples too. When you face an intimate problem, you need resources, collaboration, and continued education. Not blame.
The numbers show why this matters. In Montana, 1 in 3 women, 1 in 2 Native women, and 1 in 6 men will experience sexual assault in their lifetime. Attorney General Austin Knudsen noted that these are “some of the most difficult cases” and that the legal landscape keeps changing with new tools and techniques.
Your relationship landscape changes too. What worked at 25 may not work at 45. Prostate issues, mental health shifts, and life stress all change the game.
A Tool You Can Use: The Relationship Genogram
UCF offers a course called Couples, Families and Intimate Relationships. One assignment is a relationship genogram. You pick a fictional family from a TV show, map their relationships, and describe the connections.
You can do this with your partner. Pick a show you both know. Modern Family works. Draw the family tree. Mark who communicates well, who avoids conflict, who holds power. Then ask: where are we on this map?
Counselor education doctoral student Shazia Mirza teaches the course. She says the class helps students “gain awareness of where they are in life and how they can be successful personally, professionally and academically.” Her key advice: be flexible. “Don’t have rigid expectations for how your relationship must be,” she says. “It’s not compromising because you should still establish boundaries.”
That balance, flexibility plus boundaries, is the core skill for solving intimate problems together.
When The Problem Is Physical, Not Just Emotional
Yale Medicine reports that bedroom signs can signal health troubles. Frequent bathroom trips, weak urine stream, and trouble emptying the bladder may point to an enlarging prostate. Benign prostatic hyperplasia affects half of men by age 50 and 90 percent by age 80.
Yale urologist Thomas Buckley says, “Both BPH and erectile issues are more common as men age.” Recent studies show that with BPH symptoms, there is a higher incidence of erectile dysfunction. And many BPH treatments can impact sexual function.
So before you blame your relationship for a bedroom problem, check the prostate. Treatments include UroLift, a minimally invasive procedure done in the office that takes about an hour, and HOLEP, which removes most of the prostate without an incision. Medications and other surgical options exist too.
Prostate cancer affects 1 in 7 men. The American Urological Association suggests men ages 55 to 69 consider PSA blood test screening. African American men and those with family history should talk to their doctor sooner, between ages 40 and 54.
Solving intimate problems together means ruling out medical causes first. You cannot talk your way out of an enlarged prostate.
Mental Health Is Part Of The Equation
The WHO reports that intimate partner violence affects around 641 million women and girls globally. It increases risks of depression, anxiety, and other mental health problems. About two-thirds of women receiving mental health services have experienced intimate partner or domestic violence.
Many survivors say services were unhelpful, harmful, or retraumatizing. That is a failure of the system, not the survivor.
The WHO Commission calls for a dramatic shift. Claudia García-Moreno, WHO Unit Head, said, “Rather than strict categories and diagnoses, we need an approach that recognizes survivors’ experiences of violence and puts their needs front and center.”
For couples, this means: do not treat symptoms in isolation. If one partner is depressed or anxious, ask what happened. Ask what is happening now. The Commission recommends training health care staff in gender-based violence and survivor-centred approaches. You can apply the same principle at home. Ask about experiences, not just feelings.
What Men Need To Hear
Men perpetrating intimate partner violence may also be at higher risk of mental health conditions. That is not an excuse. It is a warning sign. If you are hurting your partner, you need help. Not couples counseling. Individual accountability.
The Commission recommends that practitioners ask all mental health service users about experiences of violence. Assessments should be done in private by trained practitioners using WHO’s LIVES principles. That means Listen, Inquire about needs and concerns, Validate, Enhance safety, and Support.
You can use LIVES at home. Listen without interrupting. Inquire about what your partner needs. Validate their experience. Enhance safety by removing threats. Support their choices.
When To Bring In Outside Help
Not every problem is a couples problem. If there is violence, coercion, or fear, couples counseling is not appropriate. The Montana training exists because sexual assault is a crime. The WHO data exists because intimate partner violence is a pandemic. The UCF course exists because healthy relationships require skills.
If you are in danger, call a local hotline. If you are not in danger but stuck, consider a course like the one at UCF. It is an elective open to any student. Mirza says it helps students “realize if their relationships are negative and how they can change them.”
For physical issues, see a urologist. For mental health issues, see a trauma-informed therapist. For relationship skills, take a class or read a book. For violence, call for help.
Solving intimate problems together works when you use the right tool for the right problem. Do not use a communication exercise for prostate cancer. Do not use a medical treatment for abuse. Do not use couples therapy for a violent partner.
A Simple Weekly Check-In
Set aside 20 minutes once a week. No phones. Ask three questions. What felt good this week? What felt hard? What do you need from me next week?
If the answer to any question involves violence, threats, or fear, stop the check-in and get help. The rest of the time, listen. Use the LIVES principles. Be flexible about expectations. Establish boundaries.
Mirza says, “When we are not fully connected with our relationships, whether it is family, friends or partners, we are not satisfied.” That dissatisfaction is not a failure. It is information. Use it.
Who Should Use These Tools
Use this approach if you are in a non-violent relationship and want to improve communication. Use it if you are noticing physical changes in the bedroom and want to rule out medical causes. Use it if you are a man over 50 who has not had a prostate conversation with a doctor.
Do not use this approach if there is violence, coercion, or fear. In that case, call a domestic violence hotline. The Montana DOJ training and WHO Commission both exist because some intimate problems are crimes. Treat them that way.
For everyone else, start with one conversation. Pick one tool. The genogram. The weekly check-in. The urologist appointment. Solving intimate problems together is not about being perfect. It is about showing up with the right resource at the right time.
Frequently Asked Questions
What is the first step to solve intimate problems together?
Rule out medical causes first. For bedroom issues, see a urologist. Yale Medicine reports that frequent bathroom trips and weak urine stream can signal an enlarging prostate, which affects half of men by age 50.
Can couples counseling fix intimate partner violence?
No. The WHO reports that intimate partner violence affects 641 million women and girls globally and is rooted in gender inequality. If there is violence or fear, call a domestic violence hotline. Couples counseling is not appropriate when one partner is unsafe.
What is a relationship genogram and how do I use it?
A relationship genogram is a family tree focused on relationships. UCF’s course uses it by having students map a fictional TV family like Modern Family. You can do it with your partner to see communication patterns, power dynamics, and where you fit.
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How to maintain the flame in your couple?
Maintaining the flame in its couple and in time is the basis so as not to sink into routine. And not to have to face too strongly the wear of the couple. Know how to reinvent yourself and seduce yourself so as not to get lost. Trust and love each other enough to leave their share of freedom to the other, each being each the guarantor of shared love.
]Be benevolent with the other and bring him positivity. The balance in his couple is possible by the subtle dosage between all this. It is thanks to confidence, self-love and love that the couple can endure. How to maintain the flame in your couple? This article proposes to answer it with some essential tracks.
1/ Maintain the flame in your couple: find the balance between mystery and sharing
Having a secret garden is important. The tendency to want to say everything within the couple is understandable for confidence but not very effective in terms of attraction. Indeed, we often tell ourselves too quickly and in full from the first moments. So whoever becomes your partner, your spouse, knows everything about you, about your experience. Your love failures, your successes, your childhood and your family, in short your life course.
The advantage is that so we do not have any unpleasant surprises about the other. But the disadvantage is that by the same way, unpacking one’s past can influence the behavior of the other towards you. And this calls into question the famous magic of discovery.
How to maintain the flame in your couple?
The mystery is exciting and even if it is not always reassuring, it is part of the process of seduction. It is therefore important to keep part of your garden secret. To keep the flame still alive. It is important to regularly exchange on your feelings, your needs, your desires but take the time to tell yourself gently. To talk about your personal history, your past. Don’t unpack right away.
Be careful, it is not a question of manipulating the other by creating an unjustified expectation and mystery about your past, nor of scaring him.
No, you just have to keep in mind that habit can be reassuring but that routine is the sworn enemy of the couple. Do not destroy the attraction that exists between you and do not lock yourself into fixed habits, so as not to sink into the routine and know the wear and tear of your couple.
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Online Dating Culture: We all know that dating way of life has changed significantly over the years, with additional women reaching and internet dating older men, or older women who date newer men. Really interesting to note how much within the dating assistance available now can be directly romance tale review aimed at these new say of” Old Women” or “OLTF” people.
It seems that once society product labels something simply because dated, unfavorable or bad that we admit that as that, regardless of how small or old anyone is. Whilst we may unlike to admit this is happening, this can be a problem within our culture.
What precisely makes dating culture so bad? First, you will find the age difference itself. If you are dating somebody who is much mature you, it can be hard to take the opportunity on getting together with up mainly because you certainly cannot be mainly because attractive to all of them as you can be if you were more youthful.
This can cause many problems, especially if you don’t understand that the only reason that they want as of yet you is because of your age difference – if you are younger, chances are they will simply choose someone who is much older. Certainly, if you are more aged yourself, then you certainly are less likely to meet up with someone who is more grow than you are. Online Dating Culture
Second, there is no much longer the “age gap”. This accustomed to be a key issue in the online dating culture many years earlier, but now it truly is becoming a smaller amount of an concern. Now, it can be perfectly appropriate for a gentleman to date women who is very much older than he could be (regardless with their age difference), because now he is viewed as “tougher”. So although it may not be socially acceptable, in the workplace it is absolutely fine to date somebody way past your date’s age!
Third, it is not actually wrong to become interested in someone outside your own grow older. It may not be right to date various other women who happen to be younger than you, but it is normally NOT the same as being interested in someone who is more mature. Many women consider themselves for being “tougher” than their age and they still got a lot of younger men. It is possible to find some great dates when you are open-minded not limited by the own choice of age. Whenever you look hard enough, it is possible to date someone who can be older or younger than you are.
Next, the new “culture” of internet dating has got actually created a very positive situation just for both men and women. These day there are more old and 10 years younger people online than ever before, which provides both men and women with a greater level of range in locating a date.
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There are even some “Older Women Intended for Older Men” services on line that allow you to locate a date, irrespective of your correct middle period! This has made available a whole ” new world ” for people looking for dates, as well as the “age gap” used to be considered a big hurdle. It is now becoming accepted for both men and women thus far in their own age groups.
Overall, the “age gap” used to be considered a big problem in regards to dating, but today it is not really an issue. Which means that men can date women very much younger than they would have the ability to if they used a “traditional” means of dating.
Furthermore, the “dating culture” of the generation has created a healthier, fun atmosphere than previously. In this way, it will be easy to meet someone from the opposite love-making who is also trying to find someone to time.
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