How to get rid of sickly jealousy?
How to get rid of sickly jealousy? Jealousy is the unconscious desire for exclusivity and possessiveness. Every human being has already experienced this feeling, but to varying degrees. This feeling can quickly become unhealthy if we do not impose a limit on ourselves and if our fear becomes too heavy to bear.
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Jealousy becomes excessive when we arrive at crises that have no reason to erupt. We start to dig in the pockets, to call his (his) darling (e) every hour, we can no longer stand that he (she) goes to see his friends, we become hysterical when we see him (his/ her) talking with a person who could potentially please him (or not for that matter)… In short, we are unmanageable because jealousy devours us. Here are 10 things to do to get rid of it as soon as possible:
1. Pamper yourself (How to get rid of sickly jealousy)
Often, when women fall victim to extreme jealousy, they tend to relax, convincing themselves that they no longer please their man. You go straight into the wall! Take care of yourself, your body and your face. Treat yourself to massages and facials at your beautician. Keep the line, do not nibble between meals. Go shopping, buy little dresses and make-up. Make yourself beautiful for your darling and above all, for you. The same goes for men: go play sports instead of watching football games or playing Xbox 360. You will feel better about yourself and also in front of your “enemies”. You will gain self-confidence and be less afraid of “others”.
2. Do activities
You can no longer stand your friend having activities outside of you. You have become jealous of everything, even his passion. Are you tired of seeing your darling join his football club every Sunday? Find activities to fill this gap that is eating away at you. Not only will you feel better in your sneakers but also, and above all, you will flourish in an area other than your daily life. Nothing better to feel alive. Register for dance, theatre, pottery, painting, badminton… You will meet new people, learn again to make social contacts.
Best of all, you can share your new activity with your darling by telling him how your course went today. Thus, when he reveals his pride in his goal scored by his incredible left foot, you will flatter him, happy to see that he too thrives in his own way. You will both find a certain balance: he will no longer feel guilty by leaving you alone, and you will find yourself by exercising activities that will make you forget the daily worries.
3. Spice up your relationship (How to get rid of sickly jealousy)
If he (she) has set his sights on you it is because there are good reasons. Reasons you are messing up with your excessive behavior. But let’s move on. Take a cardboard box and make a hole big enough to pass small words inside. I specify that you must do it together, not alone, it is a “game” to find your old passions. Then, every week, write yourself sweet little words that you will slip inside your box (that you will have taken care to decorate a time or little). No need to write it every day, but at least three/four times a week. Also force yourself to slip “good” that you will adorn with a red dot to differentiate them from sweet words. Make a pact, tell yourself that you must put at least one red dot each (so a good one each) per week. On this voucher you can write anything “good for a massage” “good for a cinema” “good for a restaurant” “good for dinner concocting for myself”…. Nothing better to revive the desire!
4. Say “stop” to telephone harassment
You call him and he (she) doesn’t answer? Is that making you crazy? You are on the verge of bursting into tears and are already starting to hate him(her). But what did he (she) actually do to you? Think for two minutes about your behavior. He or she may be shopping, or even having a drink with a friend.
Do not answer the phone when you are with friends, family is simply called politeness. He (she) loves you no less, is no less caring, he /she is just busy. Stop calling him every half hour, he will eventually cut off his laptop and reject your calls. Especially if the latter have only one goal: to ask him what he is doing and with whom. Send him cute messages “I miss you”, “I love you” “I think of you”… and don’t expect an answer from him! That’s also what love is all about, giving without waiting for a return, giving because we love the other. He/she will return it to you at some point. Be patient.
5. Organize parties with friends (How to get rid of sickly jealousy)
Are you tired of seeing him strut around with his friends in front of football, beers in hand? You refuse him all outings outside the restaurants and cinemas with you? Do you cry and make him or her feel guilty when he or she decides to go out without you? Why don’t you organize parties with your friends? Wouldn’t it be nicer to enjoy an evening of chatting and laughing over a drink with your loved ones, while your Jules does the same on his side? Rather than sitting there to languish you by stubbornly persisting in your delusions? Enjoy life as he (she) does! Independence in a couple is one of the keys to its sustainability! You have to show him that you also have a life outside your couple, that you also know how to have fun and party and that in addition, you do not need him for that! To show him that you can do without him is to prove to him that you are strong and independent. Two reasons that will rekindle the admiration he had for you… at the beginning of your relationship.
6. Stop inspecting your pockets
To make his pockets is to reveal to him how much you lack confidence in your partner. If he /she really had something to hide from you he/she wouldn’t put it in his/her jacket, he/she knows full well that he/she is going to be searching. Have a little more confidence in him and in yourself!
7. Calm down (How to get rid of sickly jealousy)
Screaming, crying, screaming at him, do you really think that these overflows of emotions will solve your situation? When you feel that you are on the verge of a nervous breakdown, breathe calmly. Go calm down in your corner, scream your dismay with your head buried in your pillow. After and only after, express your feelings to your friend. Calmly explain what puts you out of you. Try to understand yourself: are these crises really worth it? Does your friend deserve all these reproaches? Your lack of self-confidence can be the source of all your worries and it must be seriously remedied!
8. Let him/her breathe
By dint of chaining it to you, your darling will end up really wanting to run away from you! Be more permissive towards him/her and his/her outings. You are neither his mother nor his father, he (she) is tall and responsible and has no account to you. You will quickly realize that the more you let him/her do it, the more he/she will be indebted to you and will remain at your side more often.
9. Pause your imagination (How to get rid of sickly jealousy)
As soon as your partner walks through the door, you start to psychot. You imagine the worst, you invent improbable stories for yourself… To imagine what he (she) is doing is to fuel your paranoia. You don’t need that! Read, call friends, go out, clean up… In short, activate yourself, it will prevent you from getting upset alone and for no reason, and will prevent you from becoming a foul!
10. Manage your emotions
if your partner wants to leave you, he/she will. There is therefore no point in persisting in depriving him of all freedom. The more you are afraid of losing the person you care most about, the more likely you are to lose them. Indeed, jealousy can quickly become unbearable for the one who is at the origin of all these anxiety attacks! Control yourself a little!