How to manage a couple’s argument?
No, it is better not to kill your friend. (Although..) So you’re wondering, how to handle a couple’s argument? Was it one too many? How can we ensure that there are fewer of them, how can we reconcile? We tell you everything!
Couple disputes, are present in all emotional relationships.
So normal. They are not a sign of disarmer or disinterest. All couples encounter problems, it is useless to consider the breakup at the slightest problem. It is not too constructive.
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On the contrary, they are often a sign that you care about each other. When a person makes a reproach to his partner it is very often to arrange, improve the relationship. Make it stronger, or positively change the behavior of the other. For the sake of harmony.
A couple without conflict, so a couple where we never tell each other what is wrong, (and we know that there is ALWAYS something wrong) is a couple, who in one way or another has stopped making efforts, to care about the well-being of the relationship… So, arguments in a couple, it’s rather a good thing, if they are not used as a romp.
Following an unfortunate event, it is certain that sometimes you do not want to turn your tongue 7 times in your mouth, breathe a good blow, or take a step back . No! We want to express ourselves, let go of everything, sometimes hurt, as it hurt us, and mark the blow! We are angry. And it feels good to let go of everything. Later perhaps, after one or four, or a good night’s sleep, one or two very significant sulking like No I’m not hungry.
Communication, Intelligent exchange, Dispute management can be done: ( How to manage a couple’s argument? )
TRYING NOT TO:
- Imposing his point of view, his version of the facts the other is necessarily different, so he has his own sensitivity. His way of seeing things, his intentions, are therefore subjective and peculiar to him. To impose one point of view is therefore to deny that of the other. Deny his person. It is therefore important to listen to and accept the feelings of the other.
- To no longer pretend to be the person with “the best intentions” (often the perfect nana: “I do everything for you!” ) is also not very smart.
- Because twists are always shared. There are twists on both sides. It is therefore wrong to point the finger at a culprit. Just as it is better to avoid the “you”. Because the designated person is likely to be, because he or she is assaulted, during the rest of the discussion on the defensive. By justifying himself and arguing about his intentions with passion.
- Reacting to each unpleasant point in the argument of the other, mixing and evoking other points of disagreement (especially the old ones) in the conversation, harms the dialogue.
Look for the why of the how of the beginning of the beginning of the story, look for its genesis or ruminate it… has not been in the direction of progress. It makes more sense: ( How to manage a couple’s argument? )
- To try to understand the situation.
- To take his share of responsibility, apologize (so as not to enter the vicious circle of the accusation).
- To stay calm.
- To take advantage of the discussion to express oneself fully and not to keep feelings for oneself, (because the dispute is often generated by hidden feelings, not verbalized) and to listen to oneself.
An argument should not be a fight. It should be seen earlier as an opportunity to take stock of the relationship you have. On these occasions, it is neither a debate nor a fight, do not try to convince or persuade or try to change the other. You are trying to deal with the personality of the other. You adapt to it. The aim is to reach an agreement. During these discussions you are partners and not opponents!
Situation: How to manage a couple’s argument?
Ryan, (Ryan Gosling, here the name of the imaginary boy-friend) is in a bad mood at the moment, so we wonder why, suddenly we do not understand and we reproach him, a little many times .
“But you’re still in a bad mood! Talk to me” “But Ryan, you never tell me anything!” “There you have it, now I’m sure you’re hiding something from me, you’re secret!” However, Mr. Gosling does not even realize that he is in a changing mood, so he shouts at you: “You reproach me all the time, I do nothing good even when I do nothing” “You watch my reactions, let me live!”
The argument arises. Very calmly, you, the chosen one of his heart, could say this: “I confess my heart, become a little anxious when I do not know everything that goes through your head. I admit my mistake I should not have blamed you for being secretive and forcing you to confide in me. However, it might help me if you reassure me a few times.” (Hehe, voila!)