questions to ask yourself before breaking up
You are experiencing a breakup, your couple is beating and you have decided to take a break ,or you want to anticipate the fact that this could happen? Starting a conversation about what you’re both looking for in your life can be of great help.
Because very often the ruptures are due to a lack of communication. And in these cases, opening the dialogue can allow you to determine whether or not your couple can be saved, and if it is worth it! Here are 5 questions to ask yourself before breaking up:
1/ Is it really irreparable?
Can’t things be reconciled? Very often, in the heat of the moment, we react impetuously. Anger and impatience can blind us: we then feel that our partner is far too narrow-minded, and that nothing will ever change.
Which is wrong! So calm down the game, sit down together or on your own, and think back. Often, some things are surmountable if you take the trouble.
2/ Did we do everything we could? (questions to ask yourself before breaking up)
You care about your relationship and you don’t want to fuck everything up like that? Ask yourself (and your partner!) if you have done everything possible to save her. Do you both really want the end of your relationship? And is that what you both need?
3/ Is there no compromise possible?
Open the dialogue: compromises are the daily life of all couples. Can’t you find common ground to get things done? Don’t stick to your guns. Have a mature and thoughtful attitude. You might be surprised at the result! (questions to ask yourself before breaking up)
4/ How to communicate in the future?
Once you have separated, that you have each recovered all your belongings, will irremediably arise the question of communication. Because let’s not forget, we live in the age of the omnipresence of social networks.
So if you don’t want awkward moments with the one who will now be your ex, set the record straight. Do we block on Facebook? Can we/Should we still send Snaps to ourselves? Defuse future delicate situations, to avoid washing your dirty laundry publicly. (questions to ask yourself before breaking up)
5/ Did we really tell each other everything?
We often think, wrongly, that our partner is there to meet all our needs, and solve all our problems. And very often, a breakup in a couple is due to the fact that you have not clearly communicated your desires, expressed precisely your needs, your desires and your goals.
Neither is able to read thoughts; so ask yourself the question: Did I communicate clearly and effectively what I wanted and needed? And no, neither crying nor screaming are effective ways to communicate.
JOIN US ON FACEBOOK