Having a lover at work: what to do?

Having a lover at work

This time will create a special relationship combining friendship and professionalism. From thread to needle, it may be that we have a crush and that we enter into a romantic relationship. Having a lover at work requires above all and above all a foolproof discretion.

1.Having a lover at work: What do you want?

The first question to ask is: what do I REALLY want?

Different scenarios may arise.

1/ You are single – the other is in a couple

Will the other one leave his (her) partner? How long will you endure this situation? Do you have a problem with living in hiding? There are no rules in this kind of situation, the only thing that matters is you and your well-being. If you manage to live this situation serenely, it is perfect, otherwise: act! Either you give an ultimatum or you decide to break.

You are both in a relationship (Having a lover at work)

In this case, I invite you to ask yourself: which relationship brings me the most happiness? We can have a “love affair” with a colleague without it being “the love of our life”. But this “double life” will not be able to continue forever, because at some point we will have to make a choice. If you delay, your partner may realize the situation! And there, it risks being the hecatomb, because you risk losing everything and finding yourself more alone than ever. There are multiple possible combinations, but only one solution: find your happiness!

2. Having a lover at work: It’s important to make a decision

You will have to make a decision to know exactly what you want for your future.

1/ I stay with my colleague

In this case, you can enter into a serious relationship, but also stay in a light relational and without headaches. All that matters is to find a relationship that suits you.

2/ I’m leaving my colleague

This implies being able to manage the “after”, because you will see it every day! You can avoid yourself, but at some point you’re going to be confronted with each other. I invite you to read our article on the romantic breakup with a co-worker. Hence the fact that it is often not recommended to connect with a colleague, because it will not be a break common to all others. You may want to leave your job, because it will have become unbearable for you. So, think carefully before you get in touch with a co-worker.

Having a lover at work: conclusion

Having a lover at work, requires you to be able to question yourself otherwise you risk leaving feathers there. Whatever happens in your life, take the time to think before acting, because under the blow of emotion you risk making unforgivable mistakes!

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