signs that prove that you are wasting your time with him
You may have experienced an extraordinary beginning of a relationship filled with passion and butterflies of the belly, you feel that something is wrong. Whatever happens, nothing is ever lost. Even if today your relationship is flapping, do not regret having lived it, it has forged you, it has built you in a certain way. The whole thing is to realize in time that your couple will not
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So I’m going to list you 6 signs (although there are many others) that prove that you are wasting your time in this relationship and that you would be much happier alone than staying with this person who no longer offers you the happiness you deserve so much.
1/ You are not yourself (signs that prove that you are wasting your time with him)
In a relationship that works, both partners can be entirely themselves. This is also often one of the sentences that we repeat at the beginning of the relationship “What I like about you is that I am me”.
If you start to question yourself, to ask yourself if your way of acting is the right one or not… It is clear that there is eel under the rock. Either your partner puts pressure on you and pushes you (unintentionally or not) to change. Either you are afraid of losing him and try all the time to be up to the task hoping to deserve his love (which would mean that you have clearly fallen into emotional dependence).
In any case, if you keep questioning yourself, it’s because you’re not fulfilled within your relationship and it’s high time to make things happen.
I know it is difficult but some reasons are more than valid to leave the other, and even, to leave the love of his life. Find yourself! This is the best gift you can give yourself!
2/ You have questions about your love (signs that prove that you are wasting your time with him)
One of the most visible signs that your relationship is going badly is simply that you are beginning to doubt your love for your partner.
BEWARE, periods of doubt are quite normal within all relationships! NO ONE, and I mean no one, lives 20 years together without asking themselves any questions. It may be that you have entered the opposition phase of your couple and, therefore, you doubt your relationship because the defects of your partner have become unbearable to you. But this is once again normal, and you can perfectly find a nice balance after a somewhat dark period.
But if it’s been months or even years that you’ve been wondering “do I still love him?” it’s most certainly not, you don’t like it anymore. And that it would be time to take off rather than continue to lose beautiful years with someone who does not suit you, or more.
3/ You don’t trust him (signs that prove that you are wasting your time with him)
You keep asking him what he did, who he was with, what time he came home… You reassure yourself by telling yourself that you are only interested in him (her). In reality, it is a real interrogation that you subject her to because you do not trust him (her).
And, as I repeat in every article, trust is the BASIS of all healthy relationships! If you constantly doubt him (or her) it is because you can not, or no longer, to trust him. And if there is no trust, your relationship will never go very far!
4/ He (she) does not calculate you more than that
Whether you live together or not, you have the feeling that there is a big gap between his feelings and yours. While you are desperately looking for his attention, as you want him to tell you about his day, tell you about everything and nothing, you realize that communication is really not his strong point.
He barely speaks to you. Not monosyllables answer your questions. You have the feeling that he does not want to share the things of his daily life with you and it weighs you down.
You have already told him of this unpleasant sensation but he has not made any effort to remedy it? Maybe it’s time to ask the right questions…
5/ You are bored with him (her) )signs that prove that you are wasting your time with him)
What could be worse about a couple than the feeling of boredom? We can argue, hate each other sometimes, but get bored?
If you have reached this point it is because you have not been able to take care of your relationship in time: put things in place, do common activities, share interests … You let it flow and today you realise that you are simply not sharing anything.
You keep wondering if you stay with him (her) out of love or out of habit and you doubt your relationship enormously. A couple cannot be fulfilled in boredom.
6/ You no longer project yourself into the future
Before, you imagined a beautiful future: a house, children, a common professional project, great trips or whatever.
But in the end, nothing went as planned and the more time passes, the more you wonder what you are doing together.
Today, when you imagine the future with him /her, you are more anxious than happy. Look no further, it is impossible to build a healthy and solid relationship if the future with the other is complicated for you to imagine.
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