What you need to know about your partner before you commit

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need to know about your partner before you commit

This is a current trend: we are getting involved more and more quickly and easily. And yet, we get married more and more later! To give yourself time to reflect? possible! In the meantime, save time by evaluating your compatibility. Because, unless you are looking for a not serious relationship ,without a real tomorrow, it is useful, and even important, to take the time to think before getting in a relationship with someone. Here’s what you need to know about your partner before you commit.

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Be careful, this list is not exhaustive, feel of course free to remove or add topics for reflection. In addition, the ideal man/woman is only a myth about romantic relationships! There is therefore no point in having a slew of criteria that no one will meet. Unless you want to live alone for the rest of your life! Finally, do not over-analyze everything: give yourself time to discover the other. But if you feel that some details are bound to get stuck one day, make sure you sort things out quickly.

1/ Its relationship to the commitment (need to know about your partner before you commit)

Does he/she want to get married? Pacify yourself? Having children? How many? Does he/she want to enjoy life first? Is he/she merged or, on the contrary, a true lone wolf? This is probably one of the most important points to address before you commit. If you are not at all on the same wavelength, learn how to detect it! Otherwise you may find yourself facing embarrassing differences after several years of relationship… So anticipate.

2/ Its relationship to conflict

How does he/she react when confronted with crisis situations? Certainly in the beginning, everything often happens ideally. But some personality traits always end up resurfacing one day or the other… Does he/she seem violent, cowardly, dishonest, or on the contrary understanding and mature? Know how to put things in perspective, you would not want to find yourself facing someone you do not recognize at all once faced with a problem…

3/ His relationship to intimate life (need to know about your partner before you commit)

Intimate living is an essential component of the couple, so make sure you’re on the same page from the start! You do not need to be similar on all subjects (libido intensity, frequency of intercourse, relationship to infidelity…), but in this case, make sure that the dialogue is clear, and that you are ready to evolve together! The compatibility of a couple is brought to evolve. So make sure you’re both going in the same direction!

4/ His love language

Communication is essential to the couple. So to warn you as best you as possible of misunderstandings relating to the differences in love language, refer to our article about the five languages of love!

5/ His projects (need to know about your partner before you commit)

As with engagement, projects are an essential component to know before committing. No need to think about building a future for two if your projects are totally different! Unless you’re willing to compromise on your own… If you are a routine and ambitious, homemaker and party-partygoer etc… You are facing some problems!

6/ Its values

Once in a couple, if things get serious, you will have to manage a common patrimony. So be a little pragmatic and ask yourself what its relationship is to money. Is he/she stingy or spendthrift? For him/her, it’s each for himself or everything in common? If you are looking for security and stability while he/she leads a daily lifestyle, no doubt you are going into the wall! So anticipate

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